If Only We had Academy Awards for Lesbians

Lesbian Oscars 2006


If Only We had Academy Awards for Lesbians

It’s Oscar time and I couldn’t be a more ecstatic little lesbian. It’s like the Queer Super Bowl in our house. We’ve got the beer, the chips, a CD of Melissa ready to rock out during commercial breaks. Ok, we’ve got red wine and crudités, but you get my drift. My friend Kathy fantasizes about a Lesbian Oscars. Let’s dare to dream for a moment.

Best Lesbian Picture Saving Face wins the prize. It’s a wonderful romantic comedy about finding love despite culture clash. Wil, a Chinese-American surgeon and out, yet tentative lesbian, is shocked when her widowed mother shows up pregnant at her door. Both Wil and her mother must navigate the expectations of saving face and the tension between doing what is right versus pursuing your heart and doing what is wrong.

Best Lesbian Short Film My all time favorite short is entitled, Interviews With My Next Girlfriend. If you haven’t seen it, go find it. Run. Don’t walk. (Ok, ok. My second favorite is Getting to Know You, by Liz Lachman. The short stars the ultra cute, Elizabeth Keener. You get that warm, gushy, awww feeling after watching.) This year’s Best Lesbian Short Film goes to Blow, directed by Marie Craven. In this hilarious comedy, a young girl (and a redhead, no less) realizes that her sneezing fits are tied to her budding lesbianism. Let’s just say she no longer needs a tissue once she kisses her crush.

Best Lesbian Actress I hate that I have such a hard time coming up with a selection for this category. Such sadness regarding our pitiful representation in the mainstream movie world. Where’s our lesbian Brokeback? Time to get writing, womyn. And be sure to call me when you get your scripts done, I’ve been working on my acting skills. (“I coulda been a contender!”) One of our best actresses is the exquisite Cynthia Nixon, who embodies elegance, poise, and sophisticated intelligence. I can’t think of a better role model for our community. She is otherworldly in Rabbit Hole, portraying a grieving mother. Her enacted silence is deafening and resounding. Rabbit Hole is currently playing at the Manhattan Theatre Club. If you’re anywhere near NYC, go see it.
Best Straight Actress Portraying a Lesbian And the Oscar goes to? Frankly, it just doesn’t seem right to call the award an Oscar at a lesbian film fantasy event. Why don’t we call it the Dinah, after Dinah Shore. And the Dinah goes to? Idina Menzel, for her sizzling role as Maureen in Rent. Honestly, I’ve never seen pleather worn so well. Wow!

Best Lesbian Director Big round of applause for Angela Robinson, who continues to bring the hits. She deserves a standing “O”, for her dedication to film and the lesbian community. I loved D.E.B.S. and am waiting for the sequel. No, really. I want a sequel. What happens to Amy and Lucy? Did they go to Spain? Are they still crime-fighting heroines? Happily married, with pets and kids? Tell us, tell us, now.

Best Lesbian On-Screen Kiss Despite my passion for the D.E.B.S. duo, the onscreen chemistry between Natalie Press (Mona) and Emily Blunt (Tamsin) in My Summer of Love was quite, um, stirring. I can see why it was such an intriguing summer. How come I never had summer experiences like that? I mean, I went to all girls camp in a remote part of Maine. You would think I would have better stories to tell!

Best Out Lesbian Couple Attending the OscarsWho could that be? Any guesses? Can we say Ellen and Portia? Calling all Hollywood dykes. Come out come out wherever you are. The millennium has passed and it’s time to represent! We need you!

Best Lesbian Fantasy Date for the OscarsHello, Gena Gershon! Shall we re-enact some scenes from Bound? Your limousine or mine? (Note the word fantasy.)
Ok, girls. Who are your lesbian nominees? Enjoy the Oscars!

Lesbian Sex in a long-term Relationship

Lesbian Sex in a long-term Relationship

I don’t think lesbians are the only ones who suffer from “bed death.” But lesbians sure do have a reputation for losing the libido after a few years together. Does your relationship have to end up in bed death? No! Not if you don’t want it to. But like most things, sustaining a healthy sexual relationship takes work. Here are some tips for keeping sex in your lesbian relationship.

1. Keep it Sweet As women, most of us are especially sensitive. If you want to get your sweetie in the mood, treat her sweetly. Don’t dig on her for little things. Remind her daily of all the reasons you love her.

2. Make Sex Dates If you want to keep romance alive, you make romantic dates with her. If you want to keep sex alive, you need to make sex dates with her. Talk it over and put it in your calendar. It’s no secret that passion dissipates over time. If you haven’t had sex in a while, waiting for it to “just happen” isn’t going to happen.
Set aside a Friday evening or Sunday afternoon. Turn off your cell phones and turn on each other. Whether you plan to spend half the day in bed or just jump onto each other for a quickie, doesn’t matter. What matters is that you both show up and get it on.

3. Bring Fantasy Into the Bedroom Everyone has a fantasy. What is yours? Do you secretly have a crush on a movie star? Did you always wish you had sex in an airplane bathroom? Does the thought of getting it on with the UPS driver make your panties damp?
Contrary to the belief of some lesbians, fantasy is good and healthy. Fantasizing does not mean you’re not into your partner. If you and your lover have never role played before, talk about what your secret desires are. If your partner is leery, let her take the lead.

4. Try Sex Toys When you’re getting tired of all the clothes in your closet, you go out and buy some new ones. The same is true for your sexual repertoire. The same-old, same-old may get her off time and time again, but it just gets boring. Add some spice by trying out a fun new sex toy. Vibrators come in all kinds of sizes and shapes. If either of you likes penetration, perhaps a new dildo and harness are in order. There are sex toys for every predilection, from anal plugs and breast clamps to g-spot stimulators. Change your wardrobe, get a new sex toy! Shop for one together, or surprise her on one of your sex date nights.

5. Watch Porn There’s nothing like watching other people get it on to get you in the mood. There is all kinds of great lesbian porn out there now, so check some out. You will probably get turned on and you might learn a few new bedroom tricks. And don’t feel you have to limit yourself to lesbian porn. Many lesbians enjoy watching gay male or straight porn.

6. Read and Learn Sex is like anything. You can always learn more and get better at it. Read lesbian erotica for stimulation and inspiration. Better yet, read it aloud to each other. Buy a lesbian sex guide like Felice Newman’s

7. Be Willing More than anything, keeping sex alive in a relationship is dependent on both partners making a commitment to do so. Be willing to take a risk and tell your partner what your needs are. Be open to hearing her desires.

Safer sex for lesbians

How to Protect Yourself from STDs and HIV

Safer sex for lesbians and bisexual women is a way to protect yourself from contracting or transmitting sexually transmitted diseases including HIV and AIDS. But what exactly is safer sex? And how can you be sure you’re protected?
First the disclaimer. If you’re sexually active, there is no 100 percent protection against contracting a sexually transmitted infection. But there are some things you can do to make your play safer.
The best way to protect yourself from contracting a sexually transmitted disease is to keep your partner’s body fluids out of your body. These fluids include vaginal fluids, blood, menstrual blood, breast milk, and semen.

Here are some low-risk activities:

Masturbation (only touching yourself)

Cybersex

Nipple and breast stimulation when not lactating

Erotic massage

Body rubbing

Kissing

Using a sex toy with a condom (be sure to use a new condom if sharing sex toys)

Cunnilingus (oral sex) with a barrier, such as a glove, dental dam or plastic wrap

Vaginal or anal contact with a latex glove

The following activities are Risky:

Unprotected cunnilingus, especially when a woman is bleeding

Unprotected rimming

Sharing sex toys without a condom

Sharing needles

Unprotected fellatio

Unprotected penis/vaginal intercourse

Unprotected penis/anal intercourse

How to do fisting

The term fisting may sound like it's done fast and hard, but actually fisting is an act that requires patience, arousal and lots of lubrication. Here's how it's done.

Difficulty: Hard

Time Required: At least a half hour

Here's How:

In order for the vaginal walls to open wide enough for your had to fit in, she must be highly aroused. Spend lots of time doing what ever it takes to turn her on.
In order to receive a hand into her vagina, a woman must be very relaxed. Fisting can be very intense, so make sure if the woman on the receiving end needs to stop, that you do. She should be the one in charge of this situation.
Plan to use lots of lubricant and wear a latex glove for protection from sexually transmitted diseases.
Insert one or two fingers at a time. She may enjoy clitoral stimulation as you do this.

The idea is to try and get your hand as small as possible. Cup your four fingers around your thumb so your hand is a skinny as it can get.
With your knuckles facing the posterior (bottom) of her vagina, slowly rotate your hand, while gently pushing in.
Getting your knuckles through is the most difficult part. Add more lube if needed. She should be breathing deep breaths and trying to relax. Again, if it is too much for her, stop.
A slight rotation of the wrist should be all you need to get past her pubic bone and inside her vagina.
Your hand will naturally curl up once inside. Once you are inside you can hold still, gently move in and out, or gently rotate your wrist.
Fisting can be intense and make you partner feel vulnerable. Remember it is her pleasure you are after. Respect her wishes.

Tips:

Not all women will be able to tolerate fisting. If she can't handle it, stop!
Lube! Lube! Lube! And more Lube!
Communication is essential in an intense act like fisting. Make sure you and your partner understand each other.
If you are acting out a scene has a "safe word" that means stop.

What You Need:

A latex glove
Lots of water based lubricant

Q. What is Tribadism?

Q. What is Tribadism?

Ans. Tribadism involves rubbing your genitals against another person's genitals or other body part. Many lesbians enjoy tribadism because they can involve their whole bodies. Also called "humping", tribadism can involve straddling a partner's leg, pubic bone or any other body part. Many women can orgasm just from this stimulation.

Want to try tribadism? Here's how.

Tribadism is very pleasurable. It's what some call frottage (from the French verb "to rub") and others call dry humping or dry f**king (though it's not necessarily very dry!) Basically, tribadism is grinding your vulva against some part of your partner's body. You can hump a partner's thigh, rub vulva to pubic bone, or vulva to tailbone. You can do it with clothes on or off.

If you have an extremely responsive clit, you may especially appreciate the indirect stimulation.

female ejaculate

Question : I have a question about ejaculation. Can anyone female ejaculate or just some women? How can you tell if you are an ejaculator or not?

Answer : How can you tell if you ejaculate? You might notice a gush of wetness right before orgasm. Or you might experience a nice big spray of come at orgasm. Potentially, all women can ejaculate and if you'd like, you can learn how.
You can explore your urethral sponge (or G-spot) with a firm, curved dildo or your fingers. Insert your fingers or dildo, aiming for the front wall of the vagina. Stroke this area with a "come hither" motion. If you use your fingers, you'll feel the difference in texture between this area, which is rough, and the rest of the vaginal walls, which are smooth. Some women like to stimulate the opening of the vagina just below the urethra. You can also press down on your pelvis with your free hand, applying pressure just above the pubic bone. Stimulate your G-spot until you feel intensely turned on and like you're about to pee. As you approach orgasm, push out, as if urinating. The stream you produce is ejaculate.

What is a Lipstick Lesbian?

The terms "Lipstick Lesbian" and "femme" can be used interchangeably. However, most properly, a "Lipstick Lesbian" is a feminine woman who loves other feminine women, and a "femme" is a feminine woman who loves masculine women. Both types of feminine Lesbians are represented on this site.But both kinds of girly-girls encounter the same problems. Since we "don't look like Lesbians", other Lesbians don't recognize us, which means we are often excluded from the united front. (Also, we don't get asked out.)When men find out we're Lesbians, they want to watch. One gorgeous femme of my acquaintance was offered twenty dollars by a man if she would kiss her girlfriend while he watched.And when we go to gay bars, no one believes that we belong there. Nice women take us aside and say, "Do you know that this is a gay bar?" Obnoxious women challenge us to "prove it" with requests that would get straight men kicked out of public office. Cautious women assume that we're straight women looking for kicks, and unfortunately, there are a lot of those out there, preying on unsuspecting Lesbians.Some Lesbians believe that femininity is an artificial creation invented and imposed on women by men to keep us down, and those who believe this think that every woman who wears makeup is endangering our civil rights. This is absurd. I say, "Vive le difference!Some Lesbians believe that we are "trying to pass for straight". Well, when I was 13 and thought that I was going to Hell because I wanted to kiss a certain blonde in my ballet class, I didn't know that there was a "right" way to be a pre-vert. I didn't know that a desire to kiss girls was supposed to inspire me to play sports and fix cars and wear boys' clothes. I liked pretty clothes when I was a tot. I'm not trying to pass for anything; I'm being true to myself.So here is a place just for us, where we don't have to apologize for being feminine, we aren't expected to entertain men, and everyone knows we're not straight.

Definition of lesbian Sex

QUESTION: Hi, I was looking for a definition of lesbian sex ?

ANSWER: Lesbian sex is sex between (and among!) women. That covers a lot of territory: tribadism, fisting, cunnilingus, analingus, breast play, anal penetration, strap-on sex, genderplay, BDSM, and many, many other erotic activities. How many can you think of?

Sex Affects

How early sex affects teenagers ?

Girls who have sex at an early age are at slightly greater risk than their peers for feeling depressed, a new study has found. But their self-esteem suffers only if the sex occurs outside a romantic relationship. For boys, having sex at an early age does not increase depression or decrease self-esteem. “I suspected that there might be negative effects of early sex for some groups,” said Ann M Meier, the study’s author and an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Minnesota. “And that’s what I found — but only under very specific circumstances.” This study, which appears in the May issue of The American Journal of Sociology, found mixed evidence for that assertion. Using data from a nationally representative US study, Meier selected 8,563 adolescents in grades 7 through 12 who had not had sex at the time of an initial interview. They were reinterviewed one to two years later. By the time of the second interview, 1,265 of the teenagers had had their first sexual experience. The average age at first sex varied with ethnicity, from 15.2 years to 17.5, with blacks having sex at the youngest ages and Asians at the oldest. Lower family income also predicted sex at an earlier age. Meier divided the group who had had sex into those whose first sex was earlier than that of other teenagers, those who had sex at the average age, and those who had sex later than average. The study considered only heterosexual intercourse, and the depression scale, which measured only depressive symptoms, was not designed to diagnose clinical depression. First sex was associated with a decrease in self-esteem, but only among girls who were younger than the average age and not in a romantic relationship. Girls who had sex at the average age or later had no increased risk for depressive symptoms compared with those who had not had sex. There was a significant increase in depressive symptoms among girls who were in short-term relationships that dissolved, and having had first sex in that relationship increased scores on the depression scale compared with girls in similar relationships that had ended without having sex.

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